Updated: Nov 26, 2020
For awhile I had been quietly considering cutting my hair. I would test the waters with the idea, and whenever I would slyly bring it up to friends and family, they would insist that I never cut my hair. I understood. I probably would regret it. I did love my hair and felt a great connection with it. It was long and made me feel free. There were too many times when I would be in a hairdressers cape, in for a trim, and leave in tears because my hair had been cut an inch or more than I had asked for. There was even a time when I was being paid as a hair model at R+CO and the lady had cut 4 or 5 inches off when I had only agreed to 2. I was sobbing at the hair show. It was painful and embarrassing, but it felt as though my appearance had been completely altered.
"would I be beautiful without my hair?"
So one of the main concerns I had for cutting my hair and donating it was "would I be beautiful without my hair?". It is kind of a selfish thought really, especially when you have the ability to donate your hair to someone in need and your hair is not a personal source of liveliness. But we all value beauty to a certain extent: whether that be in how we decorate our house, how we take care of ourselves, or simply how we live. Beauty is different for everyone, but something that adds more value to our life. When I decided that I would cut my hair, I took a poll on social media, and felt very shocked by some of the responses I got: "Your hair is such a big part of who you are."Your hair is what girls wish they had." "Look at all the beautiful women in the world. They have long hair." "
"people who don't have a choice about losing their hair must really feel like they're losing a part of their identity"
It made me realize more about how people who don't have a choice about losing their hair must really feel like they're losing a part of their identity, and because of how people were responding to me cutting my hair, I guess they are warranted in that fear. After doing some research, I found that children have a tendency to suffer from social isolation as a result of the hair loss, while people older than 60 years tend to be more affected by its psychosocial impact.
"children have a tendency to suffer from social isolation as a result of the hair loss"
While hair can make us feel beautiful, it leaves many feeling foreign and uncomfortable without it. I was lucky to have beautiful hair, but it was not what made me beautiful. It's not what makes you beautiful either. Just like everything in life, we are all dealt different cards. Some of us are more fortunate than others in different ways. But as we are all human, we are ALL BEAUTIFUL. You may be beautiful with your amazing hair, but your hair could never make you beautiful because it’s NOT THE SOURCE OF BEAUTY. We can all be beautiful because the source of beauty is within and is what connects all of us. The source of beauty is not in age, hair, or weight. This is only something that sank in for me by really observing the beautiful people I've met all around the world and paying attention to what beautiful celebrities are standing for too.
"In today's times you can find people with all sorts of different physical attributes who are stunningly beautiful that don't fit into the contemporary beauty ideal."
In today's times you can find people with all sorts of different physical attributes who are stunningly beautiful that don't fit into the contemporary beauty ideal. Looking at the many, many famous beautiful people, they literally come in all shapes, sizes, colors, ages, and sexes. But what makes them undeniably beautiful to the point where even undesirable characteristics become desired simply because they have it? What is so different about them and what do they have in common with the people you know and think are beautiful? So cliché but ever so true-- IT IS WHAT IS ON THE INSIDE! It's the confidence with which they carry themself and is in their eyes and smile that make them so attractive. Their confidence is fueled by the self-worth that they have worked hard to build up and strengthen. It is the type of self-worth that sees the value, worth, and beauty in others. These are the characteristics that add depth to a person making them beautiful.
"We are all be beautiful because the source of beauty is within and is the love that connects all of us."
We are all be beautiful because the source of beauty is within and is the love that connects all of us. The source of beauty is not in age, hair, weight, or sex, and the great thing is, the source of beauty is abundantly available within us. We can strengthen our source of beauty by:1. How We Treat Others We often quantify our own beauty through what another person thinks of us. The most lasting effect we have on others is how we make people feel. Making people feel love and accepted is one of the most beautiful things we can do. 2. How We See OurselvesBy seeing ourself as a loving, kind person (through action of course!), we start to love and accept ourselves more. When we love ourselves more, we carry ourselves differently— almost demanding respect through our strong self-respect. This is the confidence that you see in so many people— of all shapes, sizes, and ages! Tip: Try standing in front of the mirror completely naked, looking yourself in the eye and repeating "I love you. You are beautiful." until you believe it! It can be super emotional if loving yourself is not something you're used to. It is normal to want to be beautiful, and trust me, you are. I cannot believe the amount of suffering I have put myself through on a quest to feel beautiful, and moving forward as a society and as we raise the youth, perhaps it is important for us to individually reflect on: 1. How you define your beauty2. How you define your own worth These are both wildly important concepts as how you view yourself is how your children learn to view themselves. The dangers of defining your beauty through outward appearances-- is that they change.
"whoever my hair is donated to, will grow to feel not that they need the hair to be beautiful but see the hair as a symbol of love from a stranger, from the world, that we are all one and are here for each other"
And so I hope that whoever my hair is donated to, will grow to feel not that they need the hair to be beautiful but see the hair as a symbol of love from a stranger, from the world, that we are all one and are here for each other. Dedicated to my Aunt Wendy who had beautiful locks and passed away this past October from cancer. <3 <3 #Hairdonation #Beauty #Selflove